Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.
Parenting By Personality
In his book, Different Children, Different Needs, Dr. Charles F. Boyd puts a life changing spin on the interpretation of Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
He says (page 18) that since the Hebrew word for “way” is derek, which literally means “bent” and refers to a unique inner design or direction, this verse could be rendered:
“Adapt the training of your child so that it is in keeping with his natural design; when he comes to maturity, he will not depart from that pattern of life.”
Amazing and challenging!
So, what is your child’s natural bent? How has God wired them uniquely? What combination of personal strengths, interests, and skills do they possess? How do they think? How do they express themselves? What gives them joy and satisfaction? How will their lives reflect God’s glory?
As you help each of your children begin to understand their unique identity, and their value to God, to their family and to their community, they’ll be fortified to face the challenges they will certainly encounter in life’s journey.
They’ll know who they are, and whose they are, and they’ll be equipped to make a positive contribution to their world.
Knowing your own personal strengths, and understanding and adapting your way of relating will help you communicate your love and acceptance of each of your children, and will prepare them to ‘leave the nest’ with confidence.
3 Essential parenting tips:
Enjoy your children! Engage them! Equip them for life!
Here you will find online inventories, recommended books, and free pdf documents, to support you as you parent your children.
Strengths & Personality
Parents, what’s right with your children?
Designed for students aged 10 to 14, the StrengthsExplorer assessment identifies and describes your child’s three strongest emerging talents. The parent guide includes strategies to encourage growth, and action items to help you leverage their strengths.
An online talent assessment. This report includes action items, and a digital version of the book, CliftonStrengths for Students. Some of the best schools use Gallup’s CliftonStrengths for Students (formerly known as StrengthsQuest). You can give your child a head start by administering this inventory at home!
Instead of an online assessment for this age group, you’ll find here some tips on how to discover your child’s love language.
Here you’ll find some tips on how you and your child can use this assessment to solve the ‘Love Language Mystery Game.’
This profile is designed to give you a thorough analysis of your teenager’s emotional communication preference. It will single out their primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to better understand them during this stage of their life. You can try it first and then compare notes!
John Holland’s Self-Directed Search® (SDS®) is a tool that matches your aspirations, activities, competencies, and interests to the career choices and education that fit you best.
Parents, what’s right with you?
Take the CliftonStrengths assessment to discover your top 5 strengths, and download the bestselling StrengthsFinder 2.0 e-book.
This report not only shows you your leadership style, and so much more about yourself, it also gives ideas of how to understand and communicate with others according to their personality type!
The 5 Love Languages® profile will help you understand how you express love and which expressions of love tend to be most meaningful to you.
This profile will show you your emotional communication preference, and will help you to connect and deepen your relationships with others.
This book published by Gallup empowers you to embrace your individual parenting style, by discovering and developing each family members’ talents and strengths. The book contains one access code for StrengthsFinder for students and one code for StrengthsFinder for adults, plus a talent scavenger exercise for parents of children age 9 and under.
Biblical parenting involves encouraging, exhorting, and empathizing with children according to their unique needs and character. Different Children Different Needs clarifies what the Bible means when it commands us to “train up a child in the way he should go” (Proverbs 22:6). It teaches moms and dads how to understand the personality God has given each of their children and how to tailor their parenting styles to meet their children’s needs. Pastor Charles Boyd uses the popular DISC personality assessment model to help parents better recognize, accept, and appreciate their kids’ temperaments.
Different Children Different Needs is also available in hard cover from Personality Insights for $15.95 USD.